I had a plan.
A good one, too.
Color-coded. Time-blocked. Very official.
Then I woke up.
The Morning That Had Other Plans
Today was Carol Thursday. The house was not ready. At all. The kind of not ready that makes you inhale sharply and reconsider every decision that led you here.
I jumped out of bed and immediately started doing everything except what was on my list.
Then I saw a text from my marketer that was sent at 1:43 a.m.
Different time zone.
She needed a code.
So obviously, that became priority number one.
When the Day Starts Slipping Away
Next stop: the kitchen. Then the living room.
Our living room looked like a toy tornado had passed through. Our grandchildren love to dump the toy box. Putting toys away? That’s apparently optional.
I tried, once again, to follow my perfectly reasonable schedule:
- 7:15–7:45 workout
- 8:00–8:30 breakfast
- 8:30 fix ClickFunnels (okay, credit where credit is due, I did do this one)
- 8:45–11:45 write
- 12:00–3:00 train marketing and OT
I finally sat down at my laptop, which had been calling my name all morning, and managed to get exactly one thing done.
Then the screen went dark.
No warning. No mercy.
The Moment Everything Unraveled
I reached for my charger. Not there. Because of course it wasn’t. I had left it at the office the day before.
So now I had to go to the office. Which meant gathering other things that needed to come with me. And mail. Because if I’m driving past the mailbox, I might as well be efficient.
Suddenly it was 2:00 p.m.
My to-do list was untouched — except for that one thing. And my mood? Questionable.
The Reframe That Changed Everything
How many of you live some version of this almost daily? That creeping dread. The feeling that the day ran you instead of the other way around.
Here’s the reframe that saved me: Change the list.
Instead of focusing on what didn’t get done, I wrote down everything I did do. And the list was full.
When I flow with the day instead of fighting it, things work better. I couldn’t undo the morning. Last I checked, time travel is still not available.
So I gave myself some grace. And a mental pat on the back. Because doing what was necessary still counts, even if it wasn’t what you planned.
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You’re Not Behind — You’re Living
If days like this feel familiar, you’re not failing. You’re human.
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Final Thought
Some days you crush the list.
Some days you survive the day.
Both count.
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Your partner in care,
Shelley
