Let’s Be Honest… When Your Aging Parent Won’t Tell You Anything, You Start Looking Anyway

When aging parents won't tell you anything

The Thought Most Daughters Never Say Out Loud When I admitted I’d probably start snooping, it wasn’t because I was proud of it. It was because, if I’m being completely honest, I understand how families get there when an aging parent won’t tell you anything and you’re left trying to understand what’s really happening. I … Read more

The Hospital Sent Her Home…Then The Real Nightmare Started.

The Hospital Sent Her Home. Then The Real Nightmare Started.

The Reality of Care Coordination After Hospitalization The fracture took seconds. The aftermath consumed the whole family. Care coordination after hospitalization became the unexpected challenge no one prepares families for. Most people think the hard part is the fracture. It isn’t. The hard part is what happens after. The phone calls, missing information, and referrals … Read more

Daughters Are Rarely Ever Prepared for This

Daughters are rarely ever prepared for this...

Daughters caring for aging parents are rarely ever prepared for this. Not really. They prepare for the paperwork. The travel. The logistics. The medication lists. The packing. The phone calls. But they are rarely prepared for the emotional weight of becoming the nervous system for an entire family. It Was Never Just About the Move … Read more

When Our Agenda Becomes Louder Than Theirs

Shelley: When Our Agenda Becomes Louder Than Theirs

There is a simple truth we don’t say often enough in dementia care. Dementia behaviors are communication, not defiance. We, the sapphire brains, can choose.Amber and ruby brains cannot. And yet, far too often, we expect them to. A Story We Need to Pay Attention To I’ve been working closely with a family whose mother … Read more

The Real Reason Care Partnering Falls Apart Has Nothing to Do With Emergencies

(The small moments most families ignore—and why preparation matters long before panic sets in) Mom was being stubborn again. At least, that’s what I call it when she absolutely will not see the big picture and cannot understand why she can’t drive anymore. One day she’s perfectly logical about it and hands me the keys. … Read more

Why More OT Students Should Experience Fieldwork Outside the Clinic

Before we get into this story, here’s something I didn’t fully appreciate until recently. Some of the most valuable occupational therapy learning doesn’t happen inside a clinic at all. It happens in the messy, unpredictable, beautifully human environments where people actually live their lives. How This Opportunity Came About For the first time in my … Read more